Your Fourth Appointment
Support Guide

From this session onwards, you are now able to use the SCS in real life situations - not just during your daily practice. You can use it wherever you are, whenever you feel your stress or anxiety beginning to rise.

All tools have their applications and their limits. The SCS works most powerfully in combination with your traffic light awareness system - together they give you highly effective regulation of your responses in everyday life.

Please continue to practise your thirty-minute Transformation Process each day. This is what keeps your stress hormones low, particularly long-term adrenaline, which can quietly undermine your emotional wellbeing and your ability to follow through on your plans.

During your session we established your personal colour system. These are the colours we assigned together to represent different states of mind and body. Use them as your internal early warning system.

Whatever follows the words "I am" shapes how your unconscious mind sees you - and your body responds accordingly. "I am" is a message from your inner mind about how it is really feeling about you right now.

After each time you use the SCS, install a positive, constructive and believable "I am" statement. It does not need to be dramatic - it simply needs to be true enough for your mind to accept it.

Whatever you allow into your mind consistently will become your experience. Choose your "I am" with care - and repeat it each time you use the SCS.

To be happy, we need to remain in the present. Most unnecessary suffering comes from spending time in one of two places that are beyond our reach:

If at any time you find yourself drifting away from the present, bring in your SCS and redirect your mind. You have some ability to influence the present - use that energy there.

Install thinking that is present and pleasant. Ask yourself: what feel-good thought can I employ right now that is accurate and will help me feel better? In NLP terms this is called reframing. In CBT terms it is a rational thought. Whatever the discipline - if your current thinking is upsetting you, find a more helpful way to look at it.

When you notice a thought that is upsetting you, try this: rather than arguing about whether it is right or wrong, ask yourself - what other way of looking at this would help me feel better, whilst still being honest?

Often we hold onto thoughts simply because they feel correct to us. But it is not always helpful to frame life as right or wrong. Inevitably, it is just life - a perception of what has happened. If that perception is causing you pain, you have the choice to find a different one.

Life will feel considerably better - and it will always be your choice to make it so.

As someone once said about the weather: there is no such thing as bad weather - only appropriate and inappropriate clothing. Open the window, see what is actually there, and dress accordingly.

Do not allow your thoughts and fears to control you. Worry exhausts your energy without creating change. Instead, use that energy where it counts: plan your path, consider your resources, and spend your energy taking action.

What you may have experienced as stress can now be reframed as motivation. Motivation = motive + action. You have the motive. Now you have the tools to take the action. That is the formula for success.

Please continue to practise your Transformation Process - it will maintain your sense of inner calm and a balanced perspective. Now that you are doing something about these issues, you will gain more control over how your mind and body respond, and develop more constructive habits.