Hypnosis For Relationship Break Up

Dealing & Coping with a relationship break up

Does hypnosis for relationship break up work and how can it help me?
Relationship break ups are often a traumatic experience. Breakups can offer a sense of relief, in the case of a relationship that was making you unhappy. But it can also bring a sense of loss, which can trigger other difficult feelings. Hypnosis for relationship break up looks at the feelings that may emerge, could be denial (“it’s not really over”), sadness, anger, guilt, rejection, shock, fear, disbelief or loneliness, all of which contribute to a sense of confusion.

These feelings often express themselves as internal self talk, negative internal dialogue has a way of going from one thought to another, and never coming to a conclusion. A stream of negative thoughts like this, become a bit of a habit, and you may find yourself constantly thinking the same thoughts that link to the next negative thought and so on … etc … etc.

Because you can’t come up with any satisfactory answers, they carry on in a loop and wear you down. This can eventually lead to a lower sense of self worth, a lack of confidence and that feeling that you just can’t cope.

You might feel as though your world has turned upside down and that things will never be good again. The strength of your feelings might be overwhelming. Your appetite and sleep might be disturbed. You might feel restless, cry, or have less motivation and energy to do things.

So what can be done about it?

Firstly, we need to break that loop of negative thoughts. Secondly, restore your confidence, self value and belief in yourself. Once that’s done, you will find that you’re on your way out the other side of the tunnel.

How can Hypnosis For Realationship Break Up help me?

If you’ve heard of EMDR, then you know it’s very effective for dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I’m not suggesting you go and get this treatment for a breakup. But try using the technique that was recognised on the way to the development of EMDR.

Read the following excerpt from an interview with the creator of EMDR.

Edited extract from http://psychcentral.com an online magazine. Interview with EMDR Creator Francine Shapiro

By MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY, M.S.   Associate Editor

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) helps clients process traumatic experiences and get past their past.

1. How did you discover EMDR?

I discovered the effects of the eye movements that are now used in EMDR therapy one day as I was taking a walk.

I noticed that disturbing thoughts I had been having had disappeared and when I brought them back they didn’t have the same “charge.” I was puzzled since I hadn’t done anything deliberately to deal with them.

So I started paying careful attention and noticed that when that kind of thought came up, my eyes started moving rapidly in a certain way and the thoughts shifted out of consciousness. When I brought them back they were less bothersome.

So, I started doing it deliberately and found the same results. Then I experimented with about 70 people. During that time I developed additional procedures to achieve consistent effects.

I tested the procedures in a randomised study that was published in the Journal of Traumatic Stress in 1989. Then I continued the development of the procedures and published a textbook on EMDR therapy in 1995. ….end

What I’m proposing

What I’m proposing, is that in order for your brain to be able to process the confusion and turmoil of your thoughts at a subconscious level, try this.

Go for a walk in a Park or somewhere safe, just in case you get thoroughly engrossed in your thoughts. (best not near traffic etc.)

As you walk, start thinking about the negative thoughts, let them flow. Whilst your walking, stare at the path about four or five feet in front of you. Now let your eyes look a few feet to the left, then to the right, and continue to walk, think the thoughts, look left, look right and do this fairly rapidly, you should find your own rhythm. Just continue to do this for some time. Keep running those thoughts that you find disturbing, and just keep repeating those thoughts as you look left and right. You might want to take a break, then go back to it again, that’s ok.

You will probably find that as you repeat these sessions the thoughts cease to be so disturbing.  Until the point where you won’t know why you’re doing it, as you don’t have the same bad feelings about those negative thoughts anymore.

I obviously can’t give you a timescale, everyone is different, and everyones thoughts are different. It could be one session, or it might take a week? But if it breaks that negative thought pattern, then it’s worth it.

Well hopefully, if you carry out the this suggestion will have coped with the loop of bad feelings and negative thoughts, allowing you to regain a certain amount of equilibrium and stability.

The next problem is to restore your confidence, self value and belief in yourself. Fortunately this is what Hypnotherapy is very good at, and in order to deal with this in the case of relationship breakups, I have produced a recorded session to address these specific problems. Go to our download page and you’ll see it. It’s available as an MP3 download, If for any reason you need it as a CD then feel free to get in touch.

Once your confidence, self value, and self belief have been restored, then you may find your appetite returning to normal, and your sleep becoming more peaceful. You’ll feel calmer, and have more motivation and energy to do the things that make you happy.

I do hope Hyppnosis For Relationship Break Up has been of some practical help …

The reasons for breakups can be complicated. Because of this here are some thoughts and advice that you might find helpful …

If you are breaking up with someone

it doesn’t necessarily make the breakup any easier to deal with. It’s still normal (and OK) to feel upset and to miss the other person.

Don’t feel embarrassed, and don’t worry about how the situation will look to others.

If you’re breaking up, then try to be considerate in ending the relationship. Think about how you would want to be treated in the same situation.  

End the relationship face-to-face wherever possible, rather than by text, Facebook or email. If this isn’t possible, write an email or letter clearly stating the relationship is over, and give some explanation for your decision.

Give yourself some space. You don’t need to shut your ex out of your life, but it might be helpful to try to avoid him/her for a while after the breakup.

Try to end things in a way that respects the other person, but be honest. Clearly state that the relationship is over, and why.

Understand that the other person is likely to be hurt and perhaps angry about your decision.

Some things to remember & Some things that might help you feel better after a breakup

The end of a relationship doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you!  lots of people breakup.

You don’t have to be in a relationship to feel happy. It’s better to not be in a relationship than to be in bad one.

Whatever you’re feeling now won’t last forever. It may take time before you feel you have ‘moved on’, but you will!

Take it one day at a time and realise that there will be good and bad days.

We hope you have found Hypnosis For Relationship Break Up useful.